WHERE DISCRETION AND ENJOYMENT PLAY THE ROLES
BOUNDARIES & WRISTBAND SYSTEM
WRISTBAND LEGEND
🟥 RED — NO TOUCH
Do not touch me in any way. No hugging, grabbing, rubbing, pulling, or physical contact. Conversation only if welcomed.
🟨 YELLOW — ASK FIRST
You must ask before any physical contact. Consent applies only to that moment. A “no” must be respected immediately.
🟩 GREEN — TOUCH FRIENDLY (WITH CONSENT)
Open to friendly touch with consent during discretion and consent events. Boundaries still apply. Consent may be withdrawn at any time.
🟦 BLUE — COUPLE / TOGETHER
Attending as part of a couple. Both individuals must be respected. No separating, pressuring, or bypassing either person’s boundaries.
🟧 ORANGE — TRANSGENDER / GENDER-DIVERSE PLAY (ASK & RESPECT)
Indicates openness to transgender and gender-diverse interactions. Ask first before any touch or advance. Use respectful language and correct pronouns. No assumptions about bodies, roles, or interests. Fetishizing, disrespect, or invasive questions are not allowed.
🟪 PURPLE — STAFF / HOST
Event staff and safety support. Instructions must be followed immediately.
⚫ BLACK — QUARTERLY MEMBERSHIP
Active quarterly member status. Includes enhanced access and member privileges as defined by the host. Does not override consent, wristband meanings, or boundaries.
🟨✨ GOLD — MONTHLY MEMBERSHIP
Active monthly member status. Standard member access as defined by the host. Does not override consent, wristband meanings, or boundaries.
WHAT IS ALLOWED
✔ Respectful conversation
✔ Asking clearly for consent
✔ Flirting with respect
✔ Leaving any interaction at any time
✔ Checking in (“Are you comfortable?”)
✔ Reporting concerns to a host immediately
WHAT IS NOT ALLOWED
✖ Touching without consent
✖ Grabbing, cornering, or blocking movement
✖ Pressure, guilt, or repeated asking after “no”
✖ Ignoring wristband meanings
✖ Disrespect, harassment, or aggressive behavior
✖ Separating couples or overriding boundaries
✖ Over-intoxication
✖ Phones or recording devices inside the building
CONSENT REMINDERS
Consent must be clear, verbal, and ongoing. Silence is not consent. Intoxication is not consent. Anyone may change their mind at any time.
ENFORCEMENT
Violation of boundaries or consent during membership events results in immediate removal without refund, ensuring a safe, private social experience for all participants.